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How do I increase my Confidence with NLP?
Chris Harrison - July 2007
©2007 PlanetNLP Ltd
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Confidence and Social Phobia affect many people, at many different times.
Most people with low confidence, look forward to all their social and important events in a very unresourceful way.
So the first step, is to make a list of any time in the future when you know you will feel uncomfortable.
These may be single events such as a job interview, or more general events such as meeting people, or ordering in a restaurant.
Take time on this list, as the more areas you cover now the better your results will be, though you will think of further items later, and can return to this process whenever necessary.
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Once you have the list, you need to run through the swish pattern with each one.
Make sure you put a lot spend some time creating a very powerful and confident image for the second representation used in the swish.
This will take some time.
There are also a couple of exercises, specifically of confidence.
Regular use of the Get Grounded exercise is a good idea, especially as preparation for something like a job interview.
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The more you work with this exercise, the more it will generalize and you will start to drop into the correct state automatically.
People with low confidence also regularly let their internal voices get the better of them.
Use the Kill those nagging voices technique to take control of your critical voices.
Performing this exercise regularly is a really good way to remove your hesitancy over a period of time.
If you have embarrassing or uncomfortable memories from your past than you keep remembering that make you doubt yourself or feel less confident or less resourceful, then use either the whiteout or the Mommy make it go away technique to prevent them from affecting you.
A really important aspect of confidence building is to ensure that you have access to positive states.
Use the NLP Anchoring technique to build yourself some powerful states, and use them whenever you need them.
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All of the techniques listed above can be very useful for improving your confidence and can be used whenever necessary.
Most people with low confidence are very good at generalizing, and once they lose confidence in a particular aspect of their life, it is easy to allow that to spread to other areas.
Your job is to work through your life looking for the moments when you lack of confidence takes control, and to change your behavior using the techniques I have listed.
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| For a few weeks you should attempt to catch yourself any time you hesitate, work out what the cause is, then run which ever of the exercises mentioned above is appropriate.
Remember the more you work with these exercises the more your unconscious will start to generalize the new behaviors and states you create rather than your previous unconfident behaviors and states.
If you would like to see how others deal with their social phobia there is a great blog and lots of social phobia information at love-my-phobia.com.
If you have an questions, or feedback about your progress using these exercises, then please feel free to email  planetNLP.
Good Luck!
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