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When you start trying to watch for eye accessing cues it takes a while to begin to notice these often subtle signals and ignore the noise. Many peoples' eyes will move very quickly to access a memory before projecting the image with a much more obvious gaze. For instance if you ask someone to remember their fifth birthday, they will probably look up and left quickly, the look to a point on their time line and visualize the image there (I will cover this more in the advanced lesson). |
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Often these accesses happen in pairs, and it's worth thinking about the logic of what someone has to do to answer the question. For instance, what is the eye movement likely to be if you ask someone to think of a time when they felt really relaxed? Will the person respond by accessing the feeling (k) by looking down and to the right? Or will they visualize the place where they had that feeling (Vr)? The answer is that they are almost definitely going to do both. They will access the feeling first, then they will go back through their past looking for the matching time and visualize it. And this brings me to an important point - if you start asking people questions about the images and sounds they make when they think, you will eventually find someone who will swear blind that they don't make pictures in their head at all. As you ask them the relevant questions you will notice that their eyes move exactly as you would expect, so what is going on? |
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Well firstly they are not lying - they are just working with what they are consciously aware of, but they do make pictures. Otherwise how would they know what car was theirs in the car park? How would they know the way home? I once watched someone ask directions of a blind person. Not the obvious first choice, but I had to stop and watch them to see what happened. I don't know whether the blind person was blind from birth or not, but he made absolutely huge images, and laid them out in front of him using his hands. It was so clear that I could see his images from across the street! In the advanced lesson I will be covering extensions to the eye accessing skills that will make you seem like a mind reader! |
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